Coist is a Japanese site collecting stories and notes about love, dating, and marriage. This small English corner is a little different: short, practical essays about the feelings almost everyone knows — waiting for a reply, getting over someone, loving from far away. No app names, no local customs, nothing that expires with the season. Just the worries themselves, written to stay useful for a long time.
Start here: Dating Me — A User Manual
Answer 12 short questions and get a “user manual” for dating you: how you feel loved, what helps when you are upset, and how you handle messages and replies. You can copy the result and send it to the person you are seeing, so they do not have to guess.
Take the quiz: Dating Me — A User Manual
Essays
- When They Don’t Text Back: How to Survive the Waiting Without Losing Yourself — The anxiety of waiting for a reply, and checking your phone again and again.
- How to Get Over Someone You Still Love — Wanting to move on from a person your heart has not finished with yet.
- Long-Distance Relationship Problems: When Miles Start to Feel Like Distance — The loneliness of loving someone far away, and the fear that distance in miles is turning into distance in feeling.
- “They Feel Different Lately”: When You Sense Someone’s Feelings Changing — The fear that a partner’s feelings are cooling, and not knowing whether it is real or imagined.
- Still Not Over Your Ex? How to Loosen the Hold of a Love That Ended — Lingering attachment and longing for a former partner, long after the relationship ended.
- How to End a One-Sided Love and Take Your Heart Back — Loving someone who does not return the feeling, and knowing you need to let go without knowing how.
- When the Person You Like Is Already With Someone Else — Finding out the person you like is already in a relationship, and carrying a feeling that has nowhere to go.
- Always Waiting to Be Chosen: How to Stop Putting Your Love Life on Hold — Realizing that your love life keeps coming down to waiting for someone else to decide, while your own life stays paused.
- Afraid to Love Again? Why a New Beginning Can Feel Scary After Heartbreak — Wanting love again but feeling fear at the start of something new, because of what it cost last time.
- Not Knowing How They Feel: Living With the Hardest Part of Liking Someone — The uncertainty of the early stage, when you like someone and cannot tell whether the feeling is shared.